追尋夢想? 還是尋找所惡？

早陣子去看一個Dance Studio舉辦的Showcase，以非專業的舞蹈表演，應該說，去鼓勵、去支持一班沒上台經驗的初哥，這個價錢很合理，我是願意付的。主辦人致辭時，感慨家長為學業而讓子女被迫放棄學舞，不忍潛質被埋沒。

聽到這，其實有點感觸。因為我覺得自己就是為了學業，為了迎合父母、迎合社會的犧牲品。然而這種犧牲是值得與否，先讓我來說說我的故事，
不是說我要為追求所愛而放棄上大學，其實我也很慶幸自己能夠完成學位，能夠在自己喜愛的一所大學畢業的確是我的榮幸，但可惜的是我以最不願接觸的一個學科畢業。

記得讀書時，目標是大學畢業。畢業後，目標是轉行，然而，在一個知識型社會裏，每一行也有其專業規條需要認知，需要時間了解及消化。 換句話說，如果你花五年時間去完成一個自己沒興趣的學科，假如有一天，你發現你不能繼續在那個行業生存而需要轉行，你好大機會需要再花另一個五年時間去完成另一個可以糊口的專業。

坦白說，我並不完全不喜歡我的學科，十個範疇中，我有一個是喜歡的，我的專注能力很低，但我也曾幾何時可以足足一整天坐在電腦前做編程工作，甚至是數個一整天，默默耕耘。其實我的興趣有很多，總是喜歡東試試，西碰碰。然而，小孩子就是喜歡嘗試，小孩子就是沒有分析力，只管想做就做，自我評估及認知能力亦低，我曾經想過，若果我有一對分析力強的父母，從小就用適當的方法來訓練我及鼓勵我，也許我的命運便會改寫，我覺得我會比現在更聰明，更有成就。

但世事並沒有如果，再者，基於性格問題，我相信即使被父母威迫利誘，童年的我還是會鬧情緒，不想幹便不幹，沒心情便不幹。我現在所擁有的技能及成就，全部源於我對自己的認知，了解自己性格上的缺憾，用理性的方法協助自己克服。而我之所以有這種理智，其實亦源於我的學科，所以，一件事情，有失時其實在另一方面也會是一種得著。







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Different Values from deifferent types in Enneagram

The Heart Types – Emotional Values

Image by Sandra Renshaw

Two – The Helper

Twos value generosity, in themselves and others. They believe we should all help each other as much as possible. They are happy to provide help and support – but they are only human, so they also value appreciation. If you really want to motivate a Two, remember to say ‘thank you‘ and show how much you appreciate their kindness.

Three – The Performer

Threes value success, the more public and prominent the better. They believe life is a competition, with winners and losers. They are very focused on achieving their goals, and don’t mind cutting a few corners along the way – in their world, image is reality. To motivate a Three, make sure you provide public recognition of their achievements.

Four – The Romantic

Fours value authenticity. They believe the most important thing in life is to be true to yourself. They have a highly original style and don’t mind being perceived as outsiders. To motivate a Four, give them the opportunity to express themselves in an originalway. Make them feel unique and special.

The Head Types – Intellectual Values

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Five – The Observer

Fives value knowledge. They believe knowledge is power. They are avid readers and lifelong learners. To motivate a Five, give them opportunities to learn and investigate topics in depth. Treat them as respected authorities.

Six – The Guardian

Sixes value security. They believe there is safety in numbers. They are excellent team players and fiercely loyal to the group. To motivate a Six, give them opportunities to bond with the team and reassure themselves that dangers have been blocked off. Let them know you appreciate their loyalty and take every chance to show solidarity with them.

Seven – The Optimist

Sevens value pleasure and possibilities. They believe life is for living to the full, enjoying every moment. They can be relied on to look on the bright side, suggest new options and jolly everyone along. To motivate a Seven, give them plenty of variety and emphasise the fun to be had in a task. Allow them to put their ideas into action.

The Body Types – Instinctive Values

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Eight – The Leader

Eights value power. They believe you have to fight for what you want in life. They make excellent leaders or formidable opponents, depending on how they perceive you. To motivate an Eight, give them opportunities to take charge and demonstrate their effectiveness. You must also earn their respect by showing you can stand up to them.

Nine – The Peacemaker

Nines value peace and harmony. They believe life would be much easier if we could all learn to get on better together. They are self-effacing, but skilful diplomats, intervening where needed to restore harmony within a group. To motivate a Nine, show how a course of action will promote balance and mutual understanding. Don’t force them to step into the limelight.

One – The Achiever

One’s value achievement, as defined by their own high standards. They believe hard work and discipline are necessary for success. They are perfectionists, which is great sometimes but a pain in the behind at others. To motivate a One, show them you value their diligence and that you hold everyone to high standards. Be scrupulously fair.

Source from:
http://www.wishfulthinking.co.uk/2008/11/18/motivating-creative-people-personal-values/

八號仔 - 洞悉遊戲規則

今日跟兩個八號仔談左個有關前途既Issue，呢個話題，其實纏擾左好耐，搵過九號仔傾過，同一號仔講過，同六號仔提過……但最後，還是要八號仔，才能將當局者叫醒。

跟唔同性格既人，就會get到唔同既opinion。
其實我傾向buy八號仔既suggestion，也許我就是不喜歡自己過份主觀的bias掛，又或者我太清楚自己可以有幾感情用事，怕自己真係會乞食……起金錢掛帥既社會裏，能夠爬得最高既，往往都是八號仔。因為佢可以好清楚地分析環境，亦都清楚遊戲規則，可以講得出每一條路上，會有咩風險。同八號仔傾計，可以話感受唔到呢個世界係有夢想存在，佢地太清楚現實是有多殘酷。又或者佢地知道夢想既犧牲太大，作為一個以計算成本效益或者考慮後果為重既大前提下，夢想自然是追求生存下的犧牲品。

而今日既結論，其實又唔算係要將夢想幻滅，只是更加認清左前面每條路既風險同成本，加自己既傾向。而佢地呢個結論，亦都同我最近為自己再分析出來得出既結論係相同的。我總算沒浪費佢鬧我咁多年既氣同口水吧！:P 有佢地既support，感覺似乎比較踏實，搞來搞去，其實最終問題是，我沒自信 + 無gut。

Anyway，呢條可能亦都係我最想走既路都未定，既然決定了，就別再想回頭。 別怕，我的性格就是會走這樣的路！我應該要去相信，也可說，認命！